Is my ex-boyfriend using me?
ME and my ex have been separated for about 3 months now. I went on a “No Contact Rule” (I honestly didn’t want to speak to him) binge and refused his calls and changes my email address and everything. Once I did start talking to him again, we ended up having sex, and we have EVERY time I have gone over there since. I told him, “I don’t want to be friends with benefits, if you really want me let me know, otherwise I will have to get over you”
He said, were not friends with benefits, but even though we don’t “consider ourselves boyfriend/girlfriend… its the way it is” Well my mom kicked me out of the house and I am considering moving back in with him. I told him:
“Im not sure about this, if we do have a chance to work things out I don’t want to ruin it by moving in right away.” His response: “Oh, it wont be that hard, we will be living together just with no strings attached” When I told him again, “I don’t want to be friends with benefits!” He then replied: “Oh we wont be, sorry I didn’t think about that until after I sent it” That seemed slightly suspicious to me.
Well, he is ALWAYS asking to borrow money from me (he always pays me back so im not too worried about that) but, I would like to get a text every once in a while that didn’t involve me giving him something of mine. I can tell he doesn’t want to let me go, I have definitely said somethings to him that would make it hard for him to want to stick around. But I just need to know. Im so confused right now, and the hard part about it is, I can ask him all day “Are you using me?” and even if he is, it’s not like he’s going to admit it.
Can anyone give me some tips or advice? Is there anything I can do to tell if he’s using me?
So I have been at his house for about 2 days now and every night, he tries to have sex with me, and i eventually cave in. Last night, I told him, “I don’t feel good, my stomach hurts…” Him: “Aww, im sorry…” (5 minutes later he’s trying to arouse me.) Seriously?!
I question him a lot (openly to his face) “Are you just using me for sex and money?” and he always says the same thing “No, im not using you for sex or money, you give me too much money lol” But every time I say I don’t want to have sex, he some how convinces me too.
I cant help this nagging feeling im being used. Oh and his roommate is about to move out so he will be in a financial bind. I see him texting and emailing on his phone, and last night a girl called him at like 11:40pm and they talked for a little while. I know he’s talkin to other women, but he denies and and says “I dont have time for anyone right now.” So I feel he is using me because he doesn’t want to be alone and he’s/im used to me/him.